By Shannon at the Southern Schoolhouse
I still remember the day my oldest, Kayla, started kindergarten. I had packed her little backpack the night before, laid out her outfit, and practiced saying goodbye without crying (just me, not her). I made it a little easier because she was at my school but it was still hard thinking my baby was starting school.
The truth is, it was hard. But each time, with each of my three kids, it got a little easier. Not because I cared any less, but because I learned more about what they needed and what I needed to make the transition smoother.
So if you’re standing at the edge of this big step, wondering if you’re ready (or if your child is), I promise: You’ve got this. Here are five tips that helped me and can help you too.
Talk About What to Expect, In a Positive Way
Help your child feel prepared (not overwhelmed) by talking through what a day in kindergarten might look like. Keep your tone positive and encouraging, and look for natural moments throughout the summer to connect everyday routines like getting dressed, eating lunch, or playing with friends, to what school might be like. The earlier you start weaving school into daily life, the more comfortable it will feel for your child.
Practice Daily Routines Early
Start easing into school routines a few weeks before the first day. This includes setting a consistent bedtime, waking up at a regular time, and practicing getting dressed and eating breakfast. Simple habits like packing a backpack together can also build independence and confidence. Check out this other article, “It’s Time to Go!” How Morning Routines Save the Day-
Encourage Independence with Small Tasks
Kindergarten teachers appreciate when children can do things like zip their coat, tie shoes, use the bathroom independently, or open their lunchbox. Practice these skills at home so your child feels capable and empowered in the classroom.
Build Emotional Readiness
Talk openly about feelings and help your child learn how to manage big emotions. One simple way is to practice telling the difference between big problems (like getting hurt) and small problems (like not getting the crayon color they wanted). Read books (see article) about starting school, play “school” at home, or role-play how to ask a teacher for help. Remind your child that feeling nervous is normal and those feelings usually fade once they get used to their new routine and teacher.
Connect with the School Community
Attend school events, meet the teacher, and explore the school playground if possible. These small steps help your child feel more connected and less anxious. Building a relationship with your child’s teacher and other parents sets the tone for open communication all year long.
